Not everything is what it seems like, and although there are no instructions how a person functions… it is better to pay attention to some of these signs:
Lack of empathy:
Does your boyfriend seem to have lack of emotions? There is a difference between being a serious and reserved person and not showing any kind of feelings or understanding for you. Especially if he is your boyfriend, at some point he had some moments of empathy.
If he does something that is clearly wrong, he will find a way to make it look like you did it. If he cheats on you, he will blame you for that, saying it was something you could not provide.
You are losing your confidence and self-esteem.
He knows your weakness and goes after your most vulnerable parts, doing damage where he knows he is going to do the most damage. You start to feel bad about yourself. You feel ashamed, lost, confused, lonely, afraid, numb etc. do you really need this guy? Have you ever asked yourself if you deserve to be happy and not humiliated?
Nothing is ever his fault.
He always has an excuse or a story or someone to blame: someone made him act the way he did.
It’s always your fault, you did something bad and that made him explode. He can even have the police or investigators behind him confirming that “he has never done anything wrong”. Pathetic, isn’t it? No matter what he does, or has done, nothing is his fault.
A control freak!
He has to know where you are and what you are doing all the time. You have missed his phone call? He immediately accuses you of cheating. If you talk to some other guy, maybe your friend, he will ask you everything about him. You better be prepared to explain everything: where were you, what were you doing and why were you doing that?
You’re feeling alone and isolated
He always finds some flaws in your friends or makes you feel bad or uncomfortable when you are spending time with other people. Bit by bit, you lose your friends until you feel that your partner is the only person you have left. You lose support from everybody and therefore your partner gains more power.